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It's kinda fun to be involved with this whole blong thing. I've recently found out that some random people have read my blog.. interesting!
Anyway, whenever I have boy problems, my friends tell me that I deserve better. And I've said the same thing to my friends, too. Then, why are all these nice guys/girls stuck with bad guys/girls? This is something Jin and I talked about briefly on AIM, and I found this topic very interesting. One possibility is that there are not enough nice people out there; therefore, we end up being stuck with bad boys/girls. After all, nobody wants to be alone, ya know. But Jin pointed out that there are actually plenty of decent people. Yes, that's true. Jin is a nice guy, and many of my friends are very nice. But we're not attracted romantically to these nice people.
I think we have different criteria for friends and romantic partners (yeah, of course!). ya know, when girls say "you are such a nice guy!", it usually means that "i'm not attracted to you in romantic way." (well, I say "you are nice" to the guys I'm attracted to, but I'm talking about general scenario.) There were so many nice people out there, and I often bang my head on the wall and think, "why can't I date these nice guys?" So, for some strange reason, being nice doesn't necessarily translate to attractiveness as a mate. Why is this? Are we prone to be attracted to bad boys/girls??? No, I don't like bad boys! What is wrong with this world? Why can't nice people be with other nice people? I think there are so much that I need to learn about love/relationship/attraction. hahaha. And I'm starting to relize that the lack of love/relationship/attraction/etc in my life obviously doesn't help me learn about them!!! But I also don't need drama in my life, either. ugh...
I have an exam next Monday...and I have so much studying to do. (then, why am I updating my blog? don't ask!) If I didn't have to take exams or write paper, I actually love school. I love learning but I'm bit lazy.
Just read about the Hellenistic period and learned about Epicureanism. "Epicurus taught that happiness was to be found by avoiding strong passions, including the ups and downs of erotic love, and living simply, avoiding dependence on others or the world (Leahey, 2004, p. 72)." Hmmm....So, the classic Greek philosopher(?) is telling me to avoid boys, I suppose. That's not a bad idea...
Anyway, whenever I have boy problems, my friends tell me that I deserve better. And I've said the same thing to my friends, too. Then, why are all these nice guys/girls stuck with bad guys/girls? This is something Jin and I talked about briefly on AIM, and I found this topic very interesting. One possibility is that there are not enough nice people out there; therefore, we end up being stuck with bad boys/girls. After all, nobody wants to be alone, ya know. But Jin pointed out that there are actually plenty of decent people. Yes, that's true. Jin is a nice guy, and many of my friends are very nice. But we're not attracted romantically to these nice people.
I think we have different criteria for friends and romantic partners (yeah, of course!). ya know, when girls say "you are such a nice guy!", it usually means that "i'm not attracted to you in romantic way." (well, I say "you are nice" to the guys I'm attracted to, but I'm talking about general scenario.) There were so many nice people out there, and I often bang my head on the wall and think, "why can't I date these nice guys?" So, for some strange reason, being nice doesn't necessarily translate to attractiveness as a mate. Why is this? Are we prone to be attracted to bad boys/girls??? No, I don't like bad boys! What is wrong with this world? Why can't nice people be with other nice people? I think there are so much that I need to learn about love/relationship/attraction. hahaha. And I'm starting to relize that the lack of love/relationship/attraction/etc in my life obviously doesn't help me learn about them!!! But I also don't need drama in my life, either. ugh...
I have an exam next Monday...and I have so much studying to do. (then, why am I updating my blog? don't ask!) If I didn't have to take exams or write paper, I actually love school. I love learning but I'm bit lazy.
Just read about the Hellenistic period and learned about Epicureanism. "Epicurus taught that happiness was to be found by avoiding strong passions, including the ups and downs of erotic love, and living simply, avoiding dependence on others or the world (Leahey, 2004, p. 72)." Hmmm....So, the classic Greek philosopher(?) is telling me to avoid boys, I suppose. That's not a bad idea...
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